MALE CONNECTION SPANS THE GENS:
- Hamish Holcombe
- Jul 17
- 3 min read
ESSENTIAL ROLE MODEL FOR SHAPING YOUNG MALES MINDS.
GENERATIONAL CONNECTION SHAPES THE MAN 16-07-2025
Having reached the stage of having to consider the question?
What do you want to be? Gramps-Pa-Grampa-Pop-Grandad?
Settled on “Grandad” because I have experienced the great life pleasure of being a ‘Dad’ so the next logical personal accolade is to become a ‘Grandad’
TFAH and Stirling.
The eldest son with his eldest son of 2.5-3 years building a bond.
The time and patience to help with jobs that takes twice as long.
The tears and anguish of having the temerity to leave him behind.
The acceptance of putting up with shitty nappy as long as he is in the ute.
The realization that his mother’s car is heading away from dad not to him.
DFAH and Fletcher.
Second son with 2 year old son building a life connection combination of role model.
Of clear life example of knowing, sharing, and caring what is right and what is wrong.
Role model of enforcing boundaries at the same time a catalyst of exploring boundaries.
Of giving the post precious gift of growing life, not presents, more of golden seeds of time.
The many hours of time spent stretching his young brain of how to think-not what to think.
As my years pass to take the observer role, my mind summarises stages:
‘Man to Boy’ ‘Dad to Son’ ‘Son to Grandson’ as the generations roll out.
Stage: Copy and Cling.
Stage: Hero status.
Stage: Aware of Dad flaws.
Stage: knowing everything.
Stage: How much dad has learnt.
Stage: Fatherhood.
Stage: Recipient of hero status.
Stage: Aware of own flaws.
Stage: Understanding Dad challenges.
Stage: Respect and understanding.
Stage: As the time rolls on, observing as a grandparent.
HTAH to TFAH-DFAH-EPHH
Pair of boots at two doors to sneak away when work demands.
Of prioritising outside opportunities over inside peripherals.
Of silent support and being there without the need to speak.
Recipiant witness to priceless magic moments of life events.
As I age "Transition from boys to men before my very eyes"
So proud of My Boys!!!
Taking time to nurture and guide young teens in their early working life.
Becoming increasingly rare teacher male role to so many who have none.
By being an inspiring example of all that is good on earth and in heaven.
This a message to my men 27/10/97
Now you've growing up and leaving toys.
Its time for me to teach some skills.
To show you fun and avail some thrills.
Like sporting, cricket, tennis, football soccer.
The miles and time they are my pleasure.
And are the memories that I treasure.
Like riding horses, motor bikes and driving gear.
Utes and tractors with responsibility and skill.
For this, many of your mates would kill.
But there are other things that go with this.
Like perseverance, "stick to it ness" , you know what I mean.
When the job is heading into darkness and the finish can't be seen.
When your temper is getting sore.
And you're using words with letters numbering four.
And just when you are feeling tired, you're told to feed the dogs.
And when you are finished, do your other jobs.
Now is the time to leave bad language at the door.
Just get on with it, it won't take long.
Foul language to women is just not on.
To show respect is the mark of a man
How to handle stress you ask me?
I put my worries on my worry tree.
It sits outside our back door.
I hang them there when I come home.
And pick them up when I go out.
Mostly I find only half of them there.
The other half have blown off in the air
You should know your mind, respect your elders and make life fun.
If all else fails and you're in need of cheer.
I find it helps to have a quiet beer.
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